I think we've put a finger on what's been making the crazy around here lately. I mean, crazy.
Clue #1: I can only pick up the girls so many times in one day before my back is killing me.
Clue #2: My growing belly is slowly, surely pushing them off my lap
Clue #3: "Mommy REALLY needs a rest time."
Clue #4: Patience is thin and feelings are fragile. And that's just me.
Clue #5: A few new items are making their way out of boxes or we're picking them up off Craigslist...but they aren't for the girls to enjoy. Unfair!
Our transition to having a new family member to compete for attentions and resources is becoming a stark reality in these girls' little lives. I didn't realize it until my midwife suggested it as I sat on her couch crying yesterday. I could not figure out why I felt so powerless, and I'm assuming that the girls feel the same way I do, only they can't express this and it comes out as an epic tantrum that leaves me drained and in tears. I try to remain unruffled but it's awfully hard these days.
So although the photo above suggests a "how to" to get everyone ready to welcome a new family member, that's the opposite. I need help! I went to my favorite parenting resources and did some reading so I could make a good amount of space in my head and heart for making the transition as seamless as possible. Painless, no. I know it will be difficult. But I know there are things that we can do as their parents to help guide them through it.
So far, these have been the most helpful:
Helping Kids Adjust to Life with a New Baby from Janet Lansbury
How to Prepare Your Child for the New Baby from Dr. Laura Markham
25 Tips to Prepare Children for a New Sibling from L.R. Knost (Little Hearts Books)
and this one:
10 Ways to Play with Your Child when Play is the Last Thing on Your Mind
All About Books - You're Going to Be a Big Sister! from That Mama Gretchen
Welcoming a New Baby from Natural Parents Network
Any suggestions are welcome, too!