Friday, May 11, 2012

links: the Time magazine "controversy".

I'm sure you've read about the "controversy" surrounding the recent Time magazine cover photo and accompanying article. There is a lot of talk, positive and negative, surrounding this issue. I'm not usually one to weigh in on current events, but since we do tend to have an "attachment" parenting style, I thought I probably should...even though I think anything the media chomps its teeth into turns into a shadow of its former self when thrust into the public eye, including "attachment parenting."

However, I'm still so new to this motherhood thing, and at this point, I think that any response I write wouldn't really be adding anything constructive to the conversation. There is still so much I have to learn.

I think I can help best by providing links to these articles I've read written by women who better express what I have been feeling and thinking, and a short excerpt so you can decide if you want to read the whole article (You should, they're short!)


 The major gist of them is to support each other, not tear each other down! That may be one of the drawbacks to having a wide and diverse group of mothers right at your fingertips - we all think we have a right to comment on each other's business. Yes, we do choose to put it out there, but the defensiveness, the borderline-cruel comments, and outright bullying aren't helping anyone at all.

Mother Nature Network: Why can't we all just get along?

"If you love your kids, and are doing what you can to help them become healthy, happy adults, you are 'mom enough.' And really, that's all that really matters. If there is one thing that women are good at, it is support. We support our kids, our spouses, and our friends all of the time. This Mother's Day, shouldn't we stand united as mothers by supporting each other rather than fighting with each other?"

Holistic Moms Network: Motherhood under attack. 

"Motherhood is a universal experience. All mothers are exhausted. All mothers make sacrifices for their children, put some of their own desires on hold, and want to raise happy and healthy children. We all want to keep our children safe and protect them. We will stand by them and nurse them back to health when they sick. We will fight for them, move mountains for them, give every ounce of energy for them no matter what parenting model we follow."

Q&A with Jamie Lynne Grumet: A conversation with the woman on TIME's May 21 cover. 

"There seems to be a war going on between conventional parenting and attachment parenting, and that’s what I want to avoid. I want everyone to be encouraging. We’re not on opposing teams. We all need to be encouraging to each other, and I don’t think we’re doing a very good job at that."

Mothering: TIME's take on toddler nursing: A madonna, her child...and a chair?  

"The nursling on a chair and the mean spirited title on TIME’s cover are certainly contrived, but they do carry an important message. They remind us that somewhere along the way, we have elevated a natural act (whether you chose to do it or not) to an act of perversion in America. We have decided that it’s ok to be naked but not to nurse. How have we done this? And, is it time for us Moms to say that enough is enough?"

I hope this encourages you today! Have you read anything about the so-called "Mommy Wars" that hit home for you? If so, please share!

6 comments:

  1. Thanks for the follow on Twitter! I look forward to getting to know you. Gee, as far as the so-called Mommy Wars... I don't even know what to say anymore. I almost feel like the press and controversy does more to set women back than anything else could, because women are no longer united in the pursuit of equality. We just want to cat fight each other, and it's ridiculous. I chose to breastfeed my son to toddlerhood. That doesn't make me better than my own Mom, who started bottlefeeding me at 6 weeks! Sheesh.

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    1. Same here, Sadie! I love your blog, you definitely have a new follower :)

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  2. Props to you for being a *natural* Mama! Love your blog and very excited about following you :)

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    1. Thank you Kaity! So nice to meet you! :)

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  3. Thought you might like this post on the matter too. It really is everywhere on the interwebs right now...

    http://www.mamalode.com/blog/2012/05/14/mama-digs-be-curious/

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